Can you help me understand why a wonderful friendship as ended and how to accept it without this feeling of loss.

Question: I’ve lost my best friend. I love her and I loved being her friend, but situations changed and we have drifted apart. That is not what bothers me so much as the feeling that our friendship has ended, and  it appears that she doesn’t want to continue our friendship on any level. I don’t know why this happened, and I don’t know why it hurts me so much. Can you help me understand why it has happened and how to accept it without this feeling of loss.

Answer: You feel the loss because when someone loves you they are raising what we call your vibration or energy level and thus bringing you closer to alignment with your inner being, and that feel good. However, when you are dependent on the love and approval of another to feel good, you are giving away your power, and this is never what you want to do.

Is it possible that you have evolved in the last few years and your energy is no longer compatible; in other words, this friend and you are no longer on the same vibrational energy level. You can still feel love for her but because you are no longer in vibrational harmony, you are not drawn to one another in the way you were in the past. You are sad because you think that you have lost something or someone precious from your life, but she is not gone. She still is connected to you through the memories you share. Let go. Allow life to flow and know that you will always have all the love and friendship you need.

She is in this life for herself just as you are, and your close friendship is no longer necessary for her happiness, so she is letting it go. Other friends more suited to this stage of her life have been attracted by her. That is OK. It is as it should be. It’s not a loss for you. You can continue to remember the times you spent together fondly and allow her to add joy to your life that way.

Never try to interfere with the flow of your life. Relax, let go, allow all things to come and go, knowing nothing is ever lost but has merely been replaced by something more suited to bringing you closer to the alignment you desire. Bless her every day and give thanks for the time you had together.

When you do this, your life will be filled with other wonderful friends who will bring their own love and joy. So many resist change because they fear that the future will not be all they are wanting it to be, but that is not the case. Life is meant to be a constantly changing series of events and adventures and holding tightly on to the past can only serve to rob you of the joys that wait for you. Life is meant to be good, you are meant to be happy, so relax and allow it to flow as it is intended. It will and it will bring its own kind of happiness.