Can you give me more advice and more do’s and don’ts to make it easier to stay consistently peaceful, joyful and in alignment or to get back to that place when I need to.

Question: Can we talk more about staying in alignment with who I really am, the larger part of me. I want to do that as much as possible because it feels so good to be that way. Can you give me more advice and more do’s and don’ts to make it easier to stay consistently peaceful, joyful and in alignment or to get back to that place when I need to.

Answer: If you haven’t tried the focus wheel yet, it is a magnificent tool for getting back in alignment and it is a very simple and effective process. Just draw a circle. Put your problem in the middle and then go around the circle’s perimeter and where each hour of the clock would be write a dozen positive thoughts or ideas pertaining to it. By the time you have finished this exercise, you will feel better. If you have not achieved the state of mind that you are wanting, you will, at the very least, have achieved an improved mental and emotional state.

You give too much of your attention to the people and events that trouble you. I know you think that by doing that you will eventually resolve the situation, but this is not how it works. It is imperative that you keep your attention on the things that make you happy, for example on your dreams, rather than on the “hows” of making them a reality.

It is important to understand and accept that, regardless of how much you would like to, you cannot create in another’s reality. You already know that and yet you spend much of your time and energy trying to do just that. You cannot make another happy by giving them anything other than unconditional love. You do this by allowing them to be who they are, do what they want to do, and deal with the consequences of their actions. You must stop trying to fix other people’s lives if you want to be happy yourself. Channel God’s love and peace to everyone, help others where you can, but take responsibility for nobody’s life but your own.

Humans seem to feel that because they gave birth to others, they have committed themselves to take responsibility for these others “till death do us part.” This is not so. Each of us comes into this world to create the life we choose. We don’t expect to depend on others to make our decisions or fix our problems. When you attempt to do that, you not only rob them of the opportunity to grow to the full extent they can, but you rob yourself of the opportunity to live the perfect life you want to live.

Don’t take it all so seriously. Life is supposed to be good. It is supposed to be fun. You never came to struggle and worry. Look for the good in everything. Put your attention on that. Focus on your own dreams and challenges. Know that everything is as it should be. Love others, trust them to create the life they want, give them room to learn and grow, bless them, flow God’s love and then let go. When you are able to do that, you will find that peace and joy will consistently fill you days and your life will be all you could ever dream it to be.